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Your Lack of Organisation Affects Others

Is the lack of organisation affecting your relationships? If it is, read how you can mend those broken bridges. Organise. Productive. Spaces. Clutter. Relationships. Read the UCAN blog www.ucandoit.co.za
Is the lack of organisation affecting your relationships? If it is, read how you can mend those broken bridges. Organise. Productive. Spaces. Clutter. Relationships. Read the UCAN blog www.ucandoit.co.za

When you think about disorganisation and clutter, you probably think of inhabitable spaces and people who are frustrated and over-whelmed. You would be right to have this vision in mind but an area that isn’t often discussed, is the effect one’s lack of organisation has on relationships.

 

If you’re getting that sinking feeling right now, or conversely, you’re nodding your head in agreement, then consider the following descriptions and see if they sound familiar:

  • You can’t keep up with all the events your child has to be part of at school so they keep getting into trouble. They’ve now been labeled as complacent and are no longer being considered for sports teams.

  • Your tardiness made your family laugh at first but when you are late helping your sister get ready for her wedding, no one is laughing.

  • Your family does not feel they can rely on you.

  • You have been meaning to get a diary for social events but you just haven’t got there. Now you’ve forgotten your mother-in-law’s 60th birthday for the third time so she thinks you don’t care.

  • Your best friend is very tidy and she has a system for everything. You, on the other hand, have magazines lying all over your room and the dinner plates are piling up in your kitchen. The mess embarrasses you so you stop inviting her round.

  • You are middle-aged and single but you cannot keep your spaces clean. You are convinced that it is because you appear untidy and not in control.

  • Your children are so embarrassed by the state of your home that they don’t want to invite friends over. They land up spending all their time at someone else’s house.

Making amends

One or all of these scenarios could sound familiar but it may be hard to make the changes required. Since you have to start somewhere, follow these steps and see if they help you mend those burnt bridges.

  • First and foremost stop being so hard on yourself. Your inability to be tidy and manage your time may have left its mark, but you are looking to the future so focus on what is awaiting you.

  • Spend some time with those people you may have offended or hurt and be honest with them. If you feel they can help you make a change to a less chaotic existence, then tell them. They will probably be relieved that you are admitting the problem AND be honoured that you have asked them to help you.

  • If your lack of time-management has made your children angry, then discuss how they can help you get on track. Maybe they have ideas you haven’t thought of yet.

  • Reflect on what the exact cause/s of the clutter or disorganisation issues are. Dig deep and keep focused on the fact that you are trying to mend your relationships.

  • Be realistic and don’t think that change will come over night but at the same time, don’t get complacent and wait for others to do the work.

  • Equip yourself properly so that you can effect the changes. For example, if time management is a problem for you, then get a good diary or identify someone who you know is good at this. They can help you.

Following these pointers will be a good place to start but keep in mind where you are headed. This will keep you motivated enough to make sustainable changes in your life.